What I love
Natural inclinations are generally related to things that we naturally gravitate towards as a child, before we our parents and society ‘tells us’ what is right or wrong, and what we ‘should’ be doing. Inspired from the book ‘Mastery’ from Robert Greene, the author discussed the concept of natural inclinations. He argues that each person is born with specific interests and natural skills that they can excel in if they develop them with time. These can be discovered at different times in one’s life. It is therefore important to cover this aspect as soon as possible and attempt to highlight people’s natural inclinations so they and the world around them can benefit from these. Robert Green explains that understanding and leveraging one’s natural inclinations is the first step towards mastery. This is mainly because, if you are naturally drawn towards something and you enjoy doing that more than anything else, you can sustain practice in this aspect and deepen you skill, and understanding of this specific thing, as to eventually become a master on that subject/art/sport/profession/activity.
For some people, this is ‘easier’ to discover than others. For instance, Green’s natural inclination is writing. For others it could be painting, playing music, making people laugh, cooking, doing a specific sport. These can also relate to activities or tasks that you gravitate towards as a child. Examples of this could be helping others, doing a specific sport or art, providing guidance, teaching, organizing things, making new friends, observing, learning about something specific, exploring, mediating, solving conflicts, leading, understanding how things work, etc. By combining such components, it can help you define more accurately what you love, and why.
State of ‘flow’ is also known as ‘being in the zone’. It’s a mental state where you feel fully immersed, feeling energized focus, involved, and enjoying the activity or task at hand. In this situation, you are in complete absorption with what you are doing. Time often feels like it ‘disappears’ when you are in this state (distortion of temporal experience). Such an activity usually feels intrinsically rewarding.
Peak experiences are situations in which you felt at your best, you might qualify them as some of the best moments in your life.
‘’Such peak experiences are often associated with self-actualization and an intense "flow" state. According to Abraham Maslow, a peak experience includes such states as " a sense of wonder, awe, reverence, humility, surrender, and even worship before the greatness of the experience", where reality is perceived with experiences of "truth, goodness, beauty, wholeness, aliveness, uniqueness, perfection, pure potential, completion, justice, simplicity, richness, effortlessness, playfulness, self-sufficiency". (Taken from: https://www.thebrightpath.com/en/peak-experiences/)
Imagine if your doctor tells you that you now have 3 months to live before sudden death:
- Think about what would you keep on doing?
- And what you would stop?
- Are there similarities with what you found during the ‘What I Love’ workshop?